I'm not a man and I
imagine every man is different and I don't know if any of my male friends will
respond to this, but do a lot of men casually joke around with each other about
scoring the latest female body?
What Trump casually
referred to as "locker room banter", is that kind of banter actually common
in male conversation?
Trump's initial
response was so casual, it seemed like he was implying his comments were no big
deal whatsoever, because all men casually joke around about women's bodies,
touching women, kissing a woman before she even has time to think about it,
trying to score with a married woman as fast as you possibly can (even if
you've been married to another woman for less than a year) and laughingly
joking about grabbing some pussy.
So do a lot of men
like to brag about grabbing as much pussy as they can get? I hope not and I
doubt it, but what do I know?
I know a few men who
talk like that, but certainly not most men I know, unless I don't really know
them and they tend to do it in groups of other men.
You want to know what
"locker room banter" makes me think of? Well the last time I spent a
significant amount of time in a locker room was associated with high school gym
class, and there wasn't a whole lot of conversation going on in the woman's
locker room, and I don't remember any conversation that involved grabbing men
and trying to score.
I remember most women
seemed a little uncomfortable with their own bodies, so would change their
clothes as fast as they could. I remember some women talking about their
periods. I
remember a few women occasionally mentioning a guy they had a crush on or
thought was cute or were otherwise interested in. I remember one woman
frequently commenting about how her breasts were too small and she wished they
were bigger (she has implants now). So yeah, the locker room talk I remember included
women seeming a little bit uncomfortable with their own bodies, but not women
blabbing about grabbing random male bodies.
If I back track to
junior high, where we didn't have separate gym classes for guys and girls, I
remember several guy's getting on my case about my leg hair (I hadn't started
shaving my legs yet) and I remember this one obnoxious guy blabbing out stuff
about female body parts and how pussy smelled like tuna fish. That guy was
frequently making random sexist and racist comments when he was only 13 or so,
so I guess he got that sort of commentary from his dad or another family member
or something.
In my recollection,
males and females were more focused on female looks and body types (especially
female breasts) in junior high, early high school age. I remember different men
referring to me as flat-chested. Heck, I literally stuffed my bra a few times
in junior high, I guess because I felt like the girls with boobs were way more
interesting looking than me, and I looked like some ten year old little girl. I
don't even remember what I stuffed the bra with. Socks? I probably had pretty
crooked looking fake boobs.
The thing is though,
that sort of focus on female bodies didn't last very long, at least not in my
mind. Maybe it was age 12-16 or so and then I started becoming more comfortable
with the real me and coming closer and closer to my own unique self. Sure, I still had
and still have plenty of glitches and insecurities about myself, and some of
them are appearance oriented insecurities, but they're not based on trying to
please the average man or hoping some rich man will be physically attracted to
me. I evolved and continue to evolve. Don't most people? I hope so.
I hope that 13 year
old boy from my junior high gym class has grown up in terms of his portrayal of
women. At least those crude comments were coming out of the mouth of a 13 year
old. At least he wasn't a man over 60 who still has locker room banter about
female bodies and has never grown up regarding his portrayal of women and who
is now running for president.
But the man running
for president in the present back tracks my mind way back into the past, when I
was overly insecure about being flat-chested and when some 13 year old boy in
my gym class blabbed about how pussy smelled like tuna fish.
And any of you present
day people who think that having a sexist, racist president who quickly judges
women based on their bodies, and quickly lumps entire races of people together,
I guess you want to back track into the past.
