Several of my friends have posted a link today about how
it's “Invisible Majority Bisexual Pride Day” - and nothing against them posting
that - and nothing against bisexual pride - but I'm not a fan of the WORD bisexual
- and similarly, I'm not a fan of any of those words that supposedly define you
by placing you in a group with one word naming it.
Like for example, if you're a poet, why would you want to
define your own creative work as academic or as outsider or as mainstream or as
non-mainstream or whatever? What if it's parts of all of those things and more?
What if it doesn’t fit into any group name or dynamic?
Maybe I slightly diverge from mainstream sensibilities here,
because a lot of people seem to really enjoy being involved in groups. I'm reminded of how some sports fans commit
to one group (and dislike the others).
Plus how many people define themselves politically as either a democrat
or a republican. Plus how many people define themselves religiously/spiritually. This team or that team. This group or that group. This belief or that belief. Rah rah rah. Yes
or no, wrong or right, black or white, where do you fit in?
Back to bisexual, obviously it’s not black and white (or all
kinds of bright rainbow colors like a lot of the gay pride labels) – it’s
“invisible” yet the “majority”, but yet needs to be positioned into a group.
What IS bisexual anyway? How do you define it? Why would you
define it?
What if you're a
woman who is about 98% attracted to men, chemically and sexually speaking (but have sexually experimented with women
and might do so again) - but sure like looking at women (including scantily
clad women) physically speaking, maybe even more than you like looking at men
physically speaking - but when it comes down to getting close up and naked with
someone and having some sort of scintillating sexy physical contact with them,
then men are prone to making you tingle way more than other women do - but when
it comes to mental/conversational contact, you could go either way. Is that bisexual?
Quite a few women I know who identify themselves as bisexual are mainly predominantly involved with men, relationship-wise. If you’re a woman who is primarily involved
with men and/or if you’re a woman who is predominantly attracted to men but is
also willing to get physical with other women in order to turn men on, is that
bisexual ?
Or is that more of an exhibitionist fetish to turn yourself
on? Or both? Or neither?
Everyone is an individual who has their own
needs/wants/desires, right?
So why do so many people like to classify themselves into a one
word group?
Why are so many people so into DEFINING all kinds of things,
including feminism (of which there are many different definitions and
varieties) and sexual proclivities (S/M, dominant, submissive, kinky, vanilla,
bisexual blah blah blah blah blah…).
I’m not against any of those things per se; I’m mainly just
saying I don’t understand why people feel such a need to define and place
themselves in a group. Maybe part of the reason is to relate to “like minded
others” – but obviously not everyone in the bisexual (or other) group is going
to be like minded so...
How do you define these parts of yourself and why do you
want to?
Is this post of mine partially derived from an exhibitionist
fetish streak?
Just wondering and thinking/expressing out loud. Not
defining anything.
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